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Sunday, March 7, 2010

Too much on Mom's plate

This week has been a tough one for me. I have felt like there just isn't enough hours in the day. I have too many things I have to get done and I feel like I don't get enough help either. I can't even imagine how hard it would be if I didn't have my mom's help every day.

As it stands, I work 10 hour days and I'm in school full time and I'm pumping every four hours. Soon I will be done with school and I won't have that added stress anymore. And soon after that I plan to start reducing the amount of times I pump. I don't think I will be ready to give it up completely at one year but I will probably go down to 3 times a day at that point. Hopefully then, I will be able to spend more quality time with the girls where I am not as distracted.

Do the rest of the mom's out there feel like this? I know you all have your own lists of things that never get done and take up all your time. Why don't we ever get to take time off of being mom when we are sick, or get a nap when we have a headache? Why can't I ever sleep in? I love how my husband has been able to sleep in until 10am since the girls were born and I am up at 5-6am at the latest. Fair much, I don't think so. How do you all deal with the frustration? And why do things go undone unless I get them done? I just had to vent about my rough week. Thanks for listening.


  1. Girl I don't know how you do it but I give you SOOO much credit! I couldn't imagine how hard it is to raise twins, but you are doing an AMAZING job. You are such a great mommy!!!

  2. YES!! I feel that way so much of the time, and it has been the source of more than one argument with my DH over the past 15 months. I'm sorry you are feeling this way - it seems to go in waves for me. I can't imagine that you still pump every 4 hrs - it definitely adds a HUGE responsibility and stress to constantly be tracking the milk production and have to pump even when you don't feel like it. Micah was not nursing nearly that often after 7 months, and he definitely dropped down to only 4 bottles a day around 9 or 10 months (and I weaned him - it was actually such a relief to put my pump away). I was SOOO ready to get him onto whole milk at one year - I'm amazed how you've been able to pump all this time.

    My house is a mess, I'm always behind on my work, I haven't had the chance to finish unpacking and settling into this house (and now we are moving again), I never finished decorating Micah's room, and I can't remember the last time I scheduled a manicure/pedicure. Just to name a few things on my "list."

    As for the husband sleeping in...I nixed that one a while back because I couldn't take how it was always on me to wake up, and it made me angry that he slept through everything and I always woke up. Luckily, Micah sleeps until 8 or 8:30, but DH better be getting up with me and helping most mornings. I'll give him a day to sleep in if he gives me a morning off (even if I just stay in bed and hide while he handles things, it is worth a lot to stay in bed those extra hours).

    I agree - I often feel like things don't get done unless I do them. My DH has gotten better, but it took several huge fights/discussion for him to understand what needed to be done and take ownership of some more things. He still really doesn't help with the cleaning, though, but he has been doing laundry for Micah.

    Hang in there - it IS rough sometimes, and you are not alone in feeling that way. I think balancing work and self and babies is challenging. As they grow more independent, it starts to feel easier, but it is always a struggle. You'll have to look for ways to let go of the things you can, and you can make it better by communicating your frustrations. It may be that Jesse just doesn't realize how things are affecting you and you can get him to help in the ways you need if you explain it to him. Good luck!! - Tkeys

  3. You=Preacher

    LOL I've been dealing with the same thing for 7yrs now, more or less. The trick to balancing everything is realizing you can't do everything 100%, 100% of the time. I could write a novel here, but I'll email you!

  4. Yeah, I honestly think I would have not complained about sitting on the couch had I known how busy things would get. We have a huge to-do list before their party and now so far I'm still sick and Allie just got it. (timing!)

    It's hard for me to take a nap when they're alseep since that's time get stuff done. I'd talk to hubby too - I'd be livid if mine slept in all the time, but we also had a long talk before they showed up on expectations / sort of thing. Can you work something out maybe if he can watch them so you can sleep in once in awhile?

  5. I can understand your frustration! I am feeling like that a lot lately too. It is overwhelming to have multiples! I hope it is a little easier when you are done school.